This is contextually related to my last post..
I've always felt, that people, by and large, have this urge to share their happiness with others. These are people who may not be very expressive when it comes to sharing their concernsor anything otherwise. It's natural I think. Comes to everyone.
Anyway, the point here is, who do we choose to share the moment with? Now, it may be about something very inconsequential, something which people may find absolutely bizarre,something noone else may be able to relate to, but if it's giving you happiness, then it ends there.. No matter how trivial it is, the bottomline is, that it's a moment you are happy in and you feel the need to share it with someone.
This someone may ,again, be least important to you.. How many times do we actually think how 'important' the other person is in our life when we want to share a moment??(ofcourse, I am not talking of stuff which has a history/background to it that only your close ones know about)
Somehow, I lay lot of importance on the 'reaction' the listener gives. I usually read between statements and ESPECIALLY when it is about things that people usually ignore(it makes me feel observant and intelligent :P), and so obviously the 'reaction' I get is of utmost importance to me.
This is what I expect and this is what I give.
Few days back, I discovered, that when we're using Gmail for chatting and we insert a couple of smileys like - :) :) :) :)then, these smileys first dance a little, bat there eyelids twice and then freeze to one final pose(yeah.. try it.. it's one of the cutest things I've seen and also among my latest obsessions, but try it in Gmail, not Gtalk :)). Now now now, when I observe something as AWESOME as this, then, for me, it becomes a moral obligation to discuss it with atleast a trillion people. It's almost like my agenda for the week.. So obviously, I went on to tell any and everyone I know, about this "Better/important than gravity" discovery. I remember the raction given by each and every person I told this too. It's clearly in my mind. And obviously, when the reaction's been fabulous, you sub-consciously tend to place a high degree of importance to the other person(subsequently/eventually). Yes, there were some(read two) people who didn't give the reaction I wanted, but that's kinda understandable coz I realize that for something as stupid as this, people tend to give priority to whatever else they're doing at that particular moment. I am also not ruling out the possibility of someone being hard pressd for time and then not giving the 'appropriate reaction'. Here, the appropriate reaction is not that you yourself start jumping in joy or say, "AWESOME/COOL/GREAT" blah blah.. It's just a comfort you give the provide the other person with. Haan, the fact that I am NEVER sharing anything even of high consequence to me(even life and dath) with those people is just another story.
Now, just to clarify, I know this is immature and childish or whatever.. But it's not! I am not saying that the kind of reaction you give is directly proportational to the amout of importance you attach with the other person. Neither am I saying, that those people are not 'capable' of being good listeners, or an enthusiastic audience or even a dormant audience.. No.. The only thing is, that at that particular moment, if I've chosen you, even sub-consciously, then either I already have that comfort with you, or I am more than certain of your reaction(which may/ may not matter depending on the level of certainity) or I WANT to be comfortable with you, even with irrelevant stuff. I am not even blaming those people. I mean, come on, one might be busy with somthing extremely important or even if not, then at that time, somhthing else was important and I am TOTALLY cool with this. But then, the fact that I have taken my decision doesn't change, right? And if it does, say, then I am more than certain that I shall be indifferent.
This is what I give. Today, a friend of mine called me to tell me something even stupid-er than my Gtalk smiley thing(yeah.. We tend to lay lot of importance on anything which is irrelevant). I was in the middle of something extremely important and knew that taking her call would mean another 1 hour gone. So, I decided to take her call and tell her that I'll call back if it's not something very urgent. Somehow, when I heard her voice, and the excitement in it, I just couldn't ask her to hang up.I know I could have, even that I should have, considering that it DID take me anothr 15 minutes to get in form after we hung up. But I didn't. I just couldn't. She infact, knew I was busy, so she just told me her bit and wrapped up in 2 minutes saying that I should continue doing what I was. But that was the 'moment of the day' for me. It felt awesome to reciprocate. It felt great that I was a part of the moment she treasured (only a minute, BTW). I am still smiling while writin this :)
So, the point of this hugggee post is, that it's important to be mindful of your behaviour, atleast when someone's sharing a happy moment :)
PS: @People who know me,
This post is not supposed to be taken as a personal attack. It's just something I did/expected even prior to these two incidents so it's not that great a deal.
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